I had an argument with my mother the other day. I am not going to explain the entire thing because this is not about me but I talked bad at her and put on my earphones. I could see her talk but couldn’t care less what she was saying.
Was that disrespectful? I really don’t think so. Reason? I am a person who is slow to anger and respects people BUT I believe that respect is earned. I only treat people badly if they push me to the wall. So, disrespectful or not, it was not my fault.
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Okay, I feel guilty though because having taken a unit on communication skills, I should know better. But then again, I stick to my defense; I was pushed to the wall. So, our heated argument got me to realize something important about why kids rebel. My mum and I rarely see eye to eye on a lot of things but being the calm and logic person I am, I always know how to handle it, well until am pushed to the wall. If it has been in other circumstances, I would have walked away and come back a few months later, or go out and do something stupid and somethings ad probably regret. Oh, wait, that’s exactly what I used do years ago LOL!
Anyway, imma cut thru the chase. Here are the 5 reasons why we become rebellious against our loving parents (who think they are going a good job but are actually screwing things up)
- You never listen.You just wait for me to finish talking so that you can talk. When I am talking, you are busy thinking what you are going to tell me once I finish talking.
- You always assume that I am wrong. Seriously, this is so annoying. Why can’t you just assume for one second that am right.
- I can see that look on your face when I make a suggestion or when I tell you about an idea I had. It’s not encouraging. It’s like you are disappointed.
- Comparing me with someone else. That’s a no no. Why don’t you become their parent if you like them so much. I am who I am, get used to it.
- You never give me a compliment. And I mean a compliment that is honest without adding a “but”.
Dr. Phil once advised a couple on communicating effectively, well talking without the yelling and screening. He told them to take 15 minutes each and pretend that your partner was right. This is what I have been using since. Okay unless when am pushed to the wall. But it works!!!
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